sub vs. slave
From a little
one's view.
A submissive
is an individual who chooses to offer her/himself to a Dom/me in
whatever
way he/she chooses, be it sexual or otherwise. Submissives make decisionsand
choices about how they will serve, when they will serve, where they will
serve and who they will serve. A submissive's training can be as
extensive or limited as desired by them. The submissives defines
what props, toys, instruments, devices, clothing, etc. will be allowed
to be used upon their bodies. Their submission is a gift to a Dom/me
and all established and agreed upon limits are adhered to, and extended
only with permission from the submissive.
A slave is an individual who chooses to place themselves in the care and
custody of Another who is Dominant. Once collared, slaves essentially
do not have choices about how they will serve, when they will serve, where
they will serve and who they will serve. A slave's training is extensive
and usually includes everything from learning defined sexual practices
(Kama Sutra for example) to the running of the Dom's household. The
Dom/me defines what props, toys, instruments, devices, clothing, etc.
will be used upon the slave's body. Slavery is referred to as the
ultimate gift to a Dom/me, since any and all established and agreed upon
limits are maintained by the Dom/me and may be extended at the will of
the Dom/me. I've not included the 24/7
Master/slave
relationship as that is an entirely different topic all of it's own, but
rather a typical power exchange w here a level of seperateness is maintained.
In both the case of a submissive and the of a slave, the desire is to serve well and to be knowledgeable and pleasing. The communication and the "learning" of one and Another are similar in that desires, fears, abhorrances, etc. are to be discussed at great length so that miscommunications are kept to a minimum. The difference lies essentially in the mindset of the two different forms of service. The submissive performs an agreed upon service, whereas a slave is subject to perform whatever service is required by the Dominant. Psychologically, this sets up a different set of dynamics in that a slave is never without her/his Master/Mistress. Virtually every decision, action, etc. is made in accordance with the rules set by the One who owns him/her.
I feel it should be pointed out that in both cases, the individuals who
share
themselves
in either manner are some of the strongest people in existence. It
takes a great deal of personal power to give your will over to Another
and either role will test the limits of trust, faith and the ability to
express oneself honestly and assertively. If personal awareness is
lacking in ANY of the roles, whether it be Dominant/submissive or Master/slave,
the results can be disasterous to A/all concerned. Therefore, it
is essential that the relationships move forward slowly, with careful attention
paid to the details, and of course, communication cannot possibly be stressed
enough. There can be no such thing as knowing too much about your
Dominant/Master or submissive/slave. These relationships can be s
ome of the most intensely gratifying experiences W/we will ever know if
W/we take the time to see that it turns out that way.
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